Learning to trust the pauses between endings and new beginnings
By Kristina Botelho
In business, and in life I feel that we’re taught to keep pushing. To hustle, and to grind, to make things happen. But what about the moments when things stop happening? When a deal falls through, a partnership dissolves, or a dream you poured your heart into just ends.
It’s in those moments that resilience asks something deeper of us. Something that is not necessarily of action, but of faith.
I’ve had doors slam shut that I thought were meant for me. Stores that didn’t work out, opportunities that fell apart, relationships that shifted in ways I didn’t expect. At the time, I couldn’t see it and as a human experiencing it, I was angry and saddened by it, but what if every door that closes is simply put a “redirection”. Someone once shared a reframe of how we view our challenges and struggles. They said, if we looked at it as an opportunity rather than a setback or challenge, it would change everything for us. We would see the beauty it holds and perhaps feel the underlying magic in it. Each ending (and only in hindsight) am I able to see that the perceived “struggles” has always been pruning me for something more aligned with myself and God’s work for me.
Resilience isn’t just about bouncing back and forgetting the pain the experiences bring on. It isn’t about dismissing it either. It’s about believing forward. It’s trusting that even in loss, life is rearranging itself in your favour. That the no’s, the pauses, the redirections, are all sacred parts of expansion.
So, if you’re standing in the hallway right now between what ended and what’s not yet begun, take mindful notice. You’re not being punished, you’re being prepared.
The next door will open when you’re ready to walk through it with everything you’ve learned and with a faith that doesn’t waver when life shifts.
True resilience is the courage to trust what’s closing, and the grace to keep walking toward what’s next.
xoxo,
Kb.
